Many years ago while struggling with new diagnoses for my two young sons and myself I came across the term neurodivergent.  This way of describing a non neurotypical (normal) brain really appealed to me. We weren’t “wrong” or “broken”, we just diverged from normal.

Looking at many parts of my life from this perspective helped me get rid of the feeling of somehow being too weird to ever be an acceptable human. I stopped looking for ways I could make myself fit into the mainstream and I embraced my divergence. Divergent living isn’t just about being different than “normal”, it is about embracing your differences. It is about building a life that isn’t based on what you have been told you should be. A divergent life is built intentionally and from your most authentic self.

Divergent living is about living your life, your way. This sounds simple, right? Sometimes it is simple. Frequently, it sounds easier than it is; like most things in life. We have so many messages thrown at us about the life we should have, the things we should buy, etc., that it can be very hard to hear the tiny voice inside that whispers about your authentic self. Another obstacle to creating an authentic life is we often don’t know where, or how, to start. When you travel the road less taken you often don’t have good trail markers or examples to follow. How do you find your way when you only have a vague idea of where you are going? You can stumble along with trial and error (I certainly did!) or you can enlist help.

This is where life coaching can help. It is not my job to tell you what to do. This is the opposite of creating your intentional life. You are the best expert on your own lived experience. My job is to help you clear out obstacles in your way. It is to be there cheering your successes and encouraging you to reach for your next goal. It is about helping you craft and achieve the things you need to make your life the one you dream of.

While we can choose what to make our lives there are aspects of divergence that we don’t choose. I did not choose to have ADHD- I, develop chronic illnesses or to be a queer woman. I do choose, every day, to accept those parts of myself. So, when I went looking for help with building a life that reflected my involuntary and voluntary divergence I couldn’t find the kind of help and support I needed.

Most of the people providing help with this task, that I came across, were college educated, neurotypical, straight, and monogamous.  None of this would help me enough. They couldn’t understand me or my life. The suggestions I got were often created for a brain and a life I don’t have.

This is why Divergent Living is so important to me. I want to honor each individual’s needs, and hopes, of the people who are someone just outside the mainstream. (I call these groups divergent populations. People with ADHD are a divergent population, for example.) I want to help you find solutions that work for you and your life. Scheduling a free introductory session will help us see what I can help you with in building your life the way you want it.